Gone Like a Puff of Smoke - Was it a Friendship or a Relationship?
Falling in love with a person at first sight is a great thing. Loving a broken person is, however, a relatively difficult thing to do.
Being said "Don't get me wrong. I like you." two weeks after a breakup is causing both anxiousness and happiness. Knowing someone out there still has passion for you makes a person feel so much contented. But what the person who confessed his love did not know is that you needed time. Time to think. Time to process what he has said. Time to accept commitments in a relationship.
The girl did not think much about the line the boy has said. She was distracted by the four words "Don't get me wrong". In her own complicated mind, she thought the guy was only saying he liked her as a friend and they weren't emotionally involved at all. Even though the girl heard him saying words like "I like you" for a couple more times that night, she had always bear the four words in mind. In her thoughts, she was thinking about how her ex had treated her. All she wanted was a guy next to her, providing warmth, comfort, a shoulder to lean on, his chest and most of all, his undivided attention and care to never leave her side in all circumstances. Naively, she thought the guy wanted to be friends.
Two days later, the girl met another guy and proceeded to tell the first guy she liked the second guy. What she didn't know was she has hurt the guy in that split second.
A week later, she tried to amend things after the guy started ignoring her. Things got worse when she finally found out what the four words actually mean to the guy. In the guy's opinion, those four words meant that he would never want to take advantage of the girl.
In the girl's opinion, "like", "love" and "fall in love" mean different kinds of feelings.
But it was late. Everything was too late.
The girl pushed the guy away in order to refresh her mind and start to consider everything. She told him how she felt the first time they met. But he was mad, thinking the girl claimed that he was a bad, fucked up guy. She did not explain as she felt that she had done a seriously wrong thing. With great nervousness she let him go. She did not want to beg for him to stay for her explanation because of the betrayal she received from her ex. The conflict remained unresolved.
Due to personal ego and to preserve self dignity, the guy left and form a protective shield against the girl. The girl, in order to stay away from being hurt again, refused to provide a thorough explanation and blocked the guy.
Both parties did not open up about themselves and what they desire from each other. The relationship was messed up.
If everything could rewind, would she ask what the four words mean when he said it?
If they could go back, would he bother to elaborate his perception of the four words?
If there is love, is leaving the best choice to stay away from hurt?
If there is a chance, could they talk to each other again?
Would they hear each other out?
Would they let down their ego for the best of all?
Or in the end, the guy did not like the girl at all?
If the guy was sincere, why didn't he stay to hear her out after she finally calmed down?
Was it really the ego that drove the relationship to a deep ravine?
Being said "Don't get me wrong. I like you." two weeks after a breakup is causing both anxiousness and happiness. Knowing someone out there still has passion for you makes a person feel so much contented. But what the person who confessed his love did not know is that you needed time. Time to think. Time to process what he has said. Time to accept commitments in a relationship.
The girl did not think much about the line the boy has said. She was distracted by the four words "Don't get me wrong". In her own complicated mind, she thought the guy was only saying he liked her as a friend and they weren't emotionally involved at all. Even though the girl heard him saying words like "I like you" for a couple more times that night, she had always bear the four words in mind. In her thoughts, she was thinking about how her ex had treated her. All she wanted was a guy next to her, providing warmth, comfort, a shoulder to lean on, his chest and most of all, his undivided attention and care to never leave her side in all circumstances. Naively, she thought the guy wanted to be friends.
Two days later, the girl met another guy and proceeded to tell the first guy she liked the second guy. What she didn't know was she has hurt the guy in that split second.
A week later, she tried to amend things after the guy started ignoring her. Things got worse when she finally found out what the four words actually mean to the guy. In the guy's opinion, those four words meant that he would never want to take advantage of the girl.
In the girl's opinion, "like", "love" and "fall in love" mean different kinds of feelings.
But it was late. Everything was too late.
The girl pushed the guy away in order to refresh her mind and start to consider everything. She told him how she felt the first time they met. But he was mad, thinking the girl claimed that he was a bad, fucked up guy. She did not explain as she felt that she had done a seriously wrong thing. With great nervousness she let him go. She did not want to beg for him to stay for her explanation because of the betrayal she received from her ex. The conflict remained unresolved.
Due to personal ego and to preserve self dignity, the guy left and form a protective shield against the girl. The girl, in order to stay away from being hurt again, refused to provide a thorough explanation and blocked the guy.
Both parties did not open up about themselves and what they desire from each other. The relationship was messed up.
If everything could rewind, would she ask what the four words mean when he said it?
If they could go back, would he bother to elaborate his perception of the four words?
If there is love, is leaving the best choice to stay away from hurt?
If there is a chance, could they talk to each other again?
Would they hear each other out?
Would they let down their ego for the best of all?
Or in the end, the guy did not like the girl at all?
If the guy was sincere, why didn't he stay to hear her out after she finally calmed down?
Was it really the ego that drove the relationship to a deep ravine?
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